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Jan 27, 2012

Lasting Relationships From An Online Dating Service

Love.. since the beginning of time, it has been one of the most enduring human desires, that of finding another person with whom to share lasting love and romance. It is little wonder so many movies, books, and pieces of music focus on this one element of human nature, which can be admittedly simple to find, yet difficult to maintain over time.

As the world continues to shrink due to technology, more and more people are able to find one another and forge relationships. Just a few decades ago, people from different cities, states, or even countries may never have had occasion to meet in the first place, but today meeting is as simple as logging online. Statistics would seem to imply that with a broader set of people from whom to choose, people are more likely than ever before to find lasting love. And of course, using an online dating service is rapidly becoming one of the most popular ways people meet, date, and fall in love.

Can dating sites really bring two like-minded souls together and set them on the path for a lifelong relationship? Testimonials from numerous online dating services would seem to indicate that their users are getting married every day. Of course, few of these services follow up with these happy couples to see if they are still just as happy one year, five years, or ten years down the line. Still, there is little doubt that meeting online is at least as likely to result in strong, long-term relationships as any other kind of meeting.

Online dating has long carried a certain social stigma for some people, who believe only people with terrible flaws or a lack of social skills would resort to using the Internet to attract a mate. However, as social networking continues to explode in popularity, and more and more people are making the Internet an integral part of their daily lives, that stigma is largely dissipating, and people are discovering that meeting someone on line is often no different from meeting someone at the library, or a bar, or on the street.

One of the primary benefits of any online dating service is simultaneously one of the biggest drawbacks. The Internet allows you to spend time carefully crafting the persona you wish to present to others–to put your own best foot forward. From the photos you use to the headline you write to the words you choose to describe yourself, you are marketing yourself in hopes of attracting someone you will like. The problem is that everyone else is doing the same thing, and while people are not intentionally dishonest most of the time, they will play up their better features and downplay their flaws–just as you will. This can make it difficult to accurately assess any given person without one, or several, in-person meetings.

In effect, the Internet is rapidly becoming one of most people’s primary social outlets, and it only makes sense to use it to find romantic partners as well. Relationships will ultimately fail or succeed based on mutual compatibility, honesty, trust, and compassion between two people, and whether those two people meet at Happy Hour or online will not make much of a difference in the long run.